How can i be strong in my new marriage when my husband makes me cry daily about not sure of us?

just today after a week back together, my husband said we rushed into everything too soon. he left and wanted a divorce over a week ago. we talked things out and basically im the one changing alot of things. i am very sarcastic and he has a nut job of an ex wife, im a stepmom and newlywed and he hates that i have rules and expectations. this was all discussed when we dated. he insulted our whole existance.today in the car. he said we had too soon,(the first date) and we moved in together too soon, after (six months) and got married too soon (after 11 months). i said you didnt mind it at the time, i always was asking you if we should wait or what do you think and he said he enjoyed someone like me and never met anyone like me. i had never felt love this much in a long time and it just felt right despite what everyone said. i am worn out and thats what i told him. today i had to deal with his ex today and wanst a bit rude to her or her family while we were all together. what to do?